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Re: Living with someone who is suicidal?

Posted: Wed Apr 12, 2017 8:24 pm
by Egbam
Hi Mike,

Good call - I'll inbox you my details rather than have them posted for anyone on the internet to see (no offense to those on this forum, just trying to be wise!) I have no previous experience of running a support group of any sort, so am very grateful for your help.
Shalom
Helen

Re: Living with someone who is suicidal?

Posted: Wed Apr 12, 2017 8:34 pm
by Egbam
Hi Wildgoose,
I can't say I've had that experience, but it sounds very challenging and tough, not stupid at all - it would feel very different if it were for any other reason that you needed the clothes to be non ligature.
I'm glad you were able to find suitable clothes, but a horrible experience to go through.
Do you have a friend or family member who can support you should you need to do anything like this again?
So hard.
Remember to look after yourself too
Shalom
Helen

Re: Living with someone who is suicidal?

Posted: Thu Apr 20, 2017 8:09 pm
by Sarah
Hi Helen,

I've found you! Thank you for responding today.
I've read through the posts on here so far and feel this forum is vital for those having or had similar experiences of living with someone who has suicidal thoughts. We need to support each other. I've felt like a lone voice trying to find support for long enough.
I have experience on a personal level with my daughter and professionally as I work with young people - I would absolutely be onboard to help set up a group or take this subject matter out to all in our communities.
Best Regards to all

Sarah x

Re: Living with someone who is suicidal?

Posted: Tue Apr 25, 2017 10:42 am
by suelum
My 16 year old son started to self harm about 18 months ago. I tried to get some help but everyone seemed to feel that I was making too much of it and getting help that was useful seemed an impossible task. His dad hasn't really been in the picture and his older siblings have left home and I knew he was in danger. At weekend he took an overdose. I don't know how I knew but I just had a bad feeling and found him just as he was slipping into unconsciousness. Luckily prompt treatment has brought him home in one piece. So last nigh I had a chat with him. I expected he would be sorry and grateful but he just tells me he will do it again. I've been told to try and get him back to a normal routing as soon as possible but is this still true?

Re: Living with someone who is suicidal?

Posted: Thu Apr 27, 2017 10:15 pm
by Egbam
Hi Suelum,
my heart goes out to you, what an awful, worrying time for you over your son. I can't imagine who told you to get him back to a normal routine, and I am no expert, but that seems to be denying what he's feeling and wanting to do. Have you been given any mental health support for him? Or advice as to how you might support him? From what you say, you are very alone in this? It's really good that you have talked with him, and the more open you can be with each other, the better - though you may find yourself hearing things you'd rather not hear. Do remember that Papyrus can be a listening ear for both your son and yourself, and they are far more qualified to give guidance and help, but as one parent to another, I'd say, keep talking and keep fighting for him to have the care he needs. He needs to be taken seriously and not brushed under the carpet, so whilst not wanting to frighten you, please, please keep battling for the help he seems to need - don't be fobbed off!
Stay strong and know that you're not alone
Shalom
Helen

Re: Living with someone who is suicidal?

Posted: Thu Apr 27, 2017 10:21 pm
by Egbam
Hi Sarah,
great to have you on board... this is such a vital support as is becoming apparent. Mike and I have spoken about the possibility of setting up something more tangible in addition to this forum, and it would be good to have you in that conversation. Maybe we could get together, (possibly with someone from Papyrus).
Till then, lets keep this forum covered and support one another from a distance
Shalom
Helen

Re: Living with someone who is suicidal?

Posted: Sat May 06, 2017 10:46 am
by Sarah
Hi All,

Just wanted to say I'm thinking of you all and hope things are settled for you.
Take each day as it comes.

Sarah x

Re: Living with someone who is suicidal?

Posted: Fri May 12, 2017 10:18 am
by Egbam
Thanks Sarah,
it's hard living with the constant worry of whether something is about to upset the fragile balance of my daughter's life. Being reminded to take each day as it comes is immensely helpful.
Shalom
Helen

Re: Living with someone who is suicidal?

Posted: Sat May 13, 2017 10:32 am
by Egbam
Hi Sarah,
I've just realised that my last post could be interpreted as being sarcastic, that's not how I meant it... I genuinely am grateful
:)
Shalom
Helen

Re: Living with someone who is suicidal?

Posted: Sun Jun 18, 2017 2:06 pm
by Egbam
Hi all,
I'm aware that there's been little correspondence on this forum for a few weeks. I'd like to think that it's because there isn't the need, but know that sadly, that may not be the case. We've been going through a really difficult time and I guess we're not alone. Do message if sharing helps in any way. We have no formal skills,(though Papyrus do), but are here to carry each other as much as we can through our mutual experience of living with someone who is constantly fighting to live.
Shalom
Helen